Lighthouse teaching how to create a vision and mission statement for families

Lighthouse column
By: Angela Ponivas Special to The News Messenger
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Do you sometimes feel that life did not turn out as you had hoped? Do you feel like you should be happy but you are not? If so, you’ve reached a point in life that many of us reach at one age or another and I regard this as life’s way of nudging you toward what you were created to become. Recently, I read a story about a woman who thought that she would be happy if she could build her own home. She saved money, qualified for a loan, hired a builder and attained her dream. However, one night, she found herself alone in her beautiful house thinking, “Why am I not happy?” She thought that once she closed on the loan, signed all the papers, then, all of a sudden, she’d have what she was working for. But instead the woman acknowledged, “I just felt lonely. After sitting in the dark in my beautiful house, crying for some time, I realized that though I had what I wanted, I wasn’t who I wanted to be.” In my time working in the social service field, I’ve come to believe that we are each at our best when we are connecting to our core gifts, talents and values. Many individuals choose careers based on the opportunity to make money but those who are happiest align their career with their gifts, talents and values. Not long ago, I heard a famous Hollywood couple speak about how their family had developed a mission statement by which they live their lives. This was the first time I had heard of such a concept. Then, one of the Lighthouse staff, Rina Rojas, introduced me to a book called “First Things First” by Stephen R. Covey. Rina’s whole desire in life is to strengthen families. She teaches parenting classes and loves to encourage families toward greater health and wholeness. Rina had read this book and wanted to build a class curriculum around its concepts. As I read through the pages, the idea of a personal mission statement again came before me. It stated that those who are more likely to survive and to succeed are individuals with a goal and a vision for their lives. Researchers have found that survivors of German Nazi camps and survivors of POW camps in Vietnam and elsewhere survived because of a compelling, future-oriented vision inside of them that gave the primary force needed to keep many of them alive. They believed that there was some important work left for them to do. The power of vision keeps people moving forward and keeps them motivated. Vision is the best manifestation of creative imagination and the primary motivation of human action. It’s the ability to see beyond our present reality, to create, to invent what does not yet exist, to become what we are not yet. It gives us capacity to live out of our imagination instead of our memory. Vision has the power to transform and transcend. Further, one of the most powerful processes to cultivate the passion of vision is creating and integrating an empowering mission statement. Learning these truths, Lighthouse has decided to create an opportunity where families can freely dream and develop a vision and mission statement for their lives that aligns with their core values, gifts and talents. We want to create an atmosphere where individuals can think beyond the daily routine and begin thinking about who they were created to become. We believe that for individuals to reach their full potential and for families to achieve true happiness, this time to dream and connect with one’s inner beliefs is essential. If you are interested in reaching your full potential and finding true happiness for yourself and your family, please consider signing up for this class today. It is an opportunity you do not want to miss. To register, simply call our office at 645-3300 or come to the Lighthouse. Angela Ponivas is executive director of Lighthouse Counseling & Family Resource Center, 427 A St., Suite 400. The phone number is 645-3300 and the website is